I cannot believe we are already in the second week of February. Where in the world did January go? WOW! Life is moving at a pace I’m not sure I even fathom.
We’re marching on today with yet another Wifey Wednesday post which I think most of us are going to gain some valuable insight from.
Hey all you singles…pay close attention as this may be one of the best pieces you will ever read in regard to married life.
I know when I was single I had an image in my head about what being married would be.
Society plays cruel tricks on us as singles.
We are bombarded with movies and TV shows that depict romantic relationships as a rose and unicorn world. Boy meets girl, they fall in love, and suddenly all is right with the world. Talk about looking at marriage through rose colored glasses!
Social media allows us to ‘edit’ our lives so others only see what we want them to see and so often those of us who see those ‘perfect’ couple selfies believe other’s relationships are ones we should envy, because ours sure doesn’t look anything like that!
Well, I found a pin that made me feel normal….FINALLY! Made me feel like I wasn’t the only one wondering what in the hell is going on. Made me feel like my relationship was OK and not the disaster I often think it is.
I am a true romantic in every sense of the word and not even being married before stopped me from putting on those romantic rose colored glasses when I met my Mr. Right.
I had vision of our life.
We would have a life full of laughter, our conflicts would be resolved calmly and quietly, there wouldn’t be anything we couldn’t do together, and our love for each other could and would conquer anything life had to throw at us. He and I against the world!
HA!! Life, especially relational life, does not work that way! Oh we have our moments don’t get me wrong. There have been those times when we’ve stood together like the last two gun fighters facing insurmountable odds. For the most part though, it’s been more like Don Knots and Tim Conway in the Apple Dumplin’ Gang. A bunch of bumbling, fumbling and plain old not knowing what in the world to do.
Reality is, being in a relationship, any relationship, is hard work!
When two people who are NOT clones try to be in relation they bring to the table everything they’ve ever heard, seen, done, and felt. They bring every relationship prior to this one and every wrong, right, hurt, love, pain from those relationships from before right into your nice, neat, tidy world and quite honestly, it can derail us.
The truth is, relationships are rarely what we actually envision or expect them to be and today’s share talks about that in a very real way!
Joelle Wisler says it best over at Scarymommy.com
Marriage is sitting reluctantly through a documentary about gold-mining, but not impaling yourself with the remote control.
Marriage is someone reminding you that you’ll feel better if you go out and exercise, even when you’re pretty sure you’ll feel better if you eat a donut.
Marriage is sometimes flipping someone off after they turn around…. READ MORE…
We are made for relationships, no really, MADE FOR THEM. We are not meant to go through life alone, but to find others to surround ourselves with, whether that be friendships, co-workers, or spouses.
Truth is, we work better when we are in relation, but we have to be real about what those relationships really look like!!
See you next week,
9 thoughts on “Wifey Wednesday – Finally I’m Normal”
Relationships are work but hopefully ones where the rewards outweigh the work. I’m lucky to be surrounded by family and friends who are in great marriages, starting with my parents who will celebrate 54 years this year!
I would never be so bold as to publicly state what makes for a successful marriage, for fear Wifey might read it and say, “Excuse me?”
Myke, your’e so funny! Probably a wise decision though. 🙂
I sure won’t comment about being single or married. I been happy in both and times I been un-happy.
Found your blog though blogger lounge part of facebook.
If you find the time stop on over at my blog, for a cup of coffee
Dora, I too have been happy and unhappy in both situations. Glad you found me and I will certainly be visiting your blog. I love new friends!
I agree completely with Miriam…
Great post. Marriage is definitely not all chocolates and roses, though I don’t think I got that even in our courtship! Like all relationships it takes commitment and effort to keep it strong but even after 23 years I wouldn’t change a thing. I try not to think of it as hard work, but rather as a labor of love.