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Wifey Wednesday – 15 Wonderful Wifey Ways

Wifey Wednesday

HEY!! Glad you made it to another week of Wifey Wednesday!

Things are getting pretty exciting here and I’m blessed to have you come along with me on this journey

Strengthening Your Marriage

As a wife, I want to do everything within my power to be a good wife; to make my marriage as good and stable as it can be. However, reality is, I fall short most days.

Each day I wake up and do the best I can knowing that I’m human with many short comings.

Thank goodness each day is a fresh start!

The Relationship pin I’m pulling from today is from joleneengle.com. Jolene’s post is called Top 15 Ways a Wife Can Strengthen Her Marriage and it’s a good one. Good stuff here, I’m tellin ya!

I want to share with you her top 15 tips verbatim, while adding my own successes and falls along the way

■ (my thoughts will be the italicized comments in parenthesis).

These are 15 wonderful wifey tips you’re not gonna wanna miss!

This is where you get to know a bit about me and maybe relate in some way. That sure would be nice, as for me there is nothing worse than feeling like I’m the only one who is struggling.

15 Wonderful Wifey Ways
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1. Respect him. Respecting your man let’s him know you believe in him and that you support him, his vision, and his leadership abilities.

■ (Respect comes in so many ways: the way I talk to Mr Right; the way I talk about Mr Right to others, the way my actions are interpreted, and so much more)

…and let the wife see that she respects her husband. Ephesians 5:33

2. Pray for him.
■ (Now, here’s one I am successful with on most days. I set aside time to pray for Mr Right during each of my morning devotions – even if it’s a short one, such as, Let him sleep well)
3. Encourage him.
 ■ (I tend to roll back and forth with this one…sadly this is dependent on my moods and the sort of day I’m having or how we’ve been communicating 😦 )
■ (This one comes back to respect, I think. If I’m respecting Mr Right then I’m more apt to allow him to be the head of the family as God intended)
 ■ (yet another one I struggle with. I can only attribute that to being a part-time parent who is a bit selfish when it comes to time with my kids. I often put them over him…wrong)
6. Help him and serve him
■ (I fall short of this one as I often stop serving him when I feel as if I’m not being served in return. It’s a terrible tit-for-tat experience on my end more than I would like)

And the LORD God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.”  Genesis 2:18

7. Accept him, short comings and all.  (We all have them!)
■ ( I can be very hard on Mr Right when there are things I think he could improve upon. I’m a fix-it girl and that often leaves him feeling like a failure)
8. Desire him.  Yep, that’s why we married them. (wink)
(Oh I desire Mr Right, I’m just sooo tired most days I don’t do anything about it or to let him know I desire him)
9. Forgive him- let things go, otherwise you’ll be bitter.  You can read more on bitterness in this post.
(This is a biggy for me! I struggle with letting go. I will hold onto things and hold onto things until I explode. This is NOT a good idea gals, trust me)

For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. Matthew 6:14

10. Don’t treat him like a child; you are not his mother, you are his wife.

(I actually giggled when I read this one because Mr Right accuses me of this frequently. I am really good at getting my mama voice out when I speak to him about some things)

11. Be content with how much money he makes.
(Hooray!! Success with this one for the majority of the time. I don’t care how much or how little he makes…just doesn’t matter to me. I know we can make whatever comes, work!)
12. Be content with his parenting skills.
(Well, there are times I’m good with this one, and times when I crash and burn. Step-parenting is not easy and we biological parents can often step on toes when the step-parent attempts parenting – guilty)
13. Be content with his walk with the Lord (aka, his ability to be the spiritual leader of the home).
(Working on this one; have struggled with it when Mr Right seems to be losing his way…um thinking that’s probably the whole mothering thing again…sigh)

Now godliness with contentment is great gain. 1 Timothy 6:6

14. Be intentional about being a godly wife. Your conduct will help your husband rise to the challenge/occasion of being a more godly husband. Remember, you are a wife of influence!

(I think I’m getting better at this one, especially since I started intentionally writing about becoming a better more Godly wife here on Wifey Wednesdays 🙂 )

Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives. 1 Peter 3:1

15. Leave and cleave; make sure you share your heart with your husband more than with anyone else, including your mother, sister, friends, etc.

(Um, well what can I say. When Mr Right and I are good, this one’s easy. When we’re not so good, this one is quite the challenge)

Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. Genesis 2:24

As you can see, being a good and Godly wife is not easy…most things that can strengthen our marriages are simple, but simple does not always translate into easy.

I struggle with more than I care to, but through each struggle I become better. Better at dealing with strong emotions, better at communicating with Mr. Right and better at being a better wifey! 🙂

I’m not giving up, even though I fall short on many of the 15 tips!!

Which of the 15 do you most struggle with? Are there other tips you’ve used or tried?

I’d love to hear from you!!

5 thoughts on “Wifey Wednesday – 15 Wonderful Wifey Ways

  1. What a great post! I love everything about it!! I try to be a great wife ( be his best friend, his lover, and his backbone when he needs it. ) I try to build his confidence and self esteem but my problem is money. We can talk about it at length but I still can’t get the money issue less problematic. I wish I could let it go like you…


    1. Hi Anna! Thanks for chiming in here! It took me a long time to come to terms with the money thing. It is probably one of the most difficult things to let go of. I’ve found it has been the BIGGEST stress relief. Most of my ease about it comes from just trusting God and knowing he provides! Thanks again for sharing…not always an easy thing to do, but YOU DID IT!!! ♥R

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      1. Thank you Robyn I love your posts and your blog… I agree it is hard to let money issues go… Other than that our marriage is wonderful!! I have to ease up on financial issues because our marriage is so great… I am going to try and let it go and write a post on that!!


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