Do you ever reach a point where you think, I’m going to give just what I get?
I can take on this train of thought all too quickly.
When someone treats me poorly, it’s not unusual for me to begin giving back to them just what I am getting
Why do I not treat people the way I should, not the way they are treating me?
The not so friendly clerk at the store; she gets cold indifference from me.
The disgruntled co-worker who is snapping at everyone; they get avoidance from me
The grumpy spouse; he gets grumpy in return from me
Why do I do that?
Am I not called to give without expecting in return?
Am I not called to show others the grace and love of God?
Yes, I am!
More typical from me is to give exactly what I am getting in return.
My grandmother used to tell me;
“You get more flies with honey than with vinegar”
I don’t think I understood what she meant until just recently.
The golden rule tells us to treat others the way we want to be treated.
I don’t think I’m very good at that. I just expect others to treat me well in the first place.
I think more often than not, I’m expecting others to show me the way they want to be treated and when they are not capable of that, they get exactly from me what they are giving to me.
Somewhere, giving, kindness, respect, friendliness, love, gentleness, and more…they have to start somewhere.
I’m capable, so it must start with me.
A line from the popular Christmas hymn, Let There Be Peace on Earth, comes to mind: Let peace begin with me
Whether that’s being friendly to a clerk who isn’t; whether that’s showing a disgruntled co-worker some grace; or whether that’s being loving to a grumpy spouse; regardless, of who or what is going on, peace in my life begins with me giving not by me getting.
And that’s my one minute mind