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4 Simple Steps to Banish A Case of the What Ifs

I've done something really scary

Well, really scary to me.
I’ve applied for a new position in hopes of changing jobs.

Risk, that’s what it is, a risk.
Just that word can elicit little tummy rolls and a small increase in my heart rate.
I don’t know that I’m comfortable taking risks.
I like my world with its comfy little discomforts.

Risk

Brings to me a sense of second guessing myself and a fear of failure.

What if they actually interview me for this job? What if I actually get this job? What if I cannot do this job? If I can, what if I’m not any good at it? What if I can’t handle it? What if the new coworkers don’t like me? What if, what if, what if

worry, risk, new job

Do the what ifs ever attack you? Whew, good I was hoping I wasn’t alone here.

The what ifs drive me crazy sometimes. I would say, typically, I’m a fairly confident person…well as long as nothing big changes.

Throw a big change at me, something of a risk, and the what ifs just move right in and don’t leave until I get comfy again.

And yet…

Life without risk can be as stale as a loaf of bread left on the counter over night, open. Oh I hate when that happens or when you think the little twisty tie is on but it really isn’t…UGH! That’s a tale for another day though

There are times when I want to move forward but fear holds me back.

Well, not this time baby. This time I closed my eyes, took a nice deep breath, and jumped right in.

S-C-A-R-Y

How did she do it, you may be asking yourself if you are anything like me.

It wasn’t easy but here are the steps I walked myself through to banish those dreadful what ifs

  1. Make a list of why’s – why did this new thing intrigue me; why did I think I wanted this new thing; why would I be good at this…etc
  2. Answer those what if questions what if I actually get this job (well, I would be using my degrees in a way I am not doing now); what if I can do the job but I’m not any good at it (I have great resources in those who are leading me, I can ask for help)…etc
  3. Look in the mirror – positive thoughts begin in my head, so do negative ones. Step in front of the mirror, begin… I am confident, capable, reliable, and more. I am loved, supported, cared for. I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength…etc
  4. Talk to someone who loves you – there are a select few whom I trust to be honest with me.  I spoke with them about my strengths, my weaknesses, whether they believed this was the right move for me…etc

Taking a risk and stepping out of my comfort zone can be so nerve-racking

What do you do when you’re faced with taking a risk or not?

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